There is always this point where somebody’s up for criticism about something you’ve written or spoken or presented, and most of us object their point of view or fail to appreciate criticism. Criticism arises when you present a piece of work to exercise views on it, so its effective enough to branch out ways to handle it positively. So, it doesn’t spiral into hurt or anger! Criticism can be disturbing, it’s just a matter of discussion that needs to be of thought of and discusses.
Any fool can criticize, convict and whine and most of them do! -Dale Carnegie
How can criticism be managed or benefitted from? You will find with time and again that the ones who receive the most criticism end up doing something different and risky. Hence, criticism mustn’t be a thing that should be avoided at any cost, Criticism is a part of life’s learning process. cIt helps in learning more about yourself and more about how society perceives your choices, selections, and actions.
1. Relish it.
Since criticism makes you question your choices it can act as a catalyst that can grow your problem-solving skills. Criticism not only helps you to correct your tactic, but it can also prepare you for potential opportunities that you may not have known existed. Criticism builds a tendency of toughening you up, this toughness you build strengthens your character by building pliability in the face of hardship; at the same time keeps you grounded in reality and teaches you to stay humble. Alternatively, your humility will open up to potentials and different perspectives as you exercise to beat life’s hitches!
Beating with Criticism: Did someone criticize your piece of work? Take it to your brain-cells and not your cardiac cells, reflect it on your work, your writing has been recited and people are discussing it – isn’t that a good sign then? As they say “Take it with a pinch of salt” Criticism must be handled with the utmost professionalism and taken along with their camaraderie. After all, it is part of people’s careers. Just sip a thought about it!
2. No Bloody’s Oops, Body’s right!
There is no written rule that your perspective and mine should match?! even if it does not all the while! It is always important to keep in a spot that other people’s criticism is always clouded by their own restrictive beliefs, fears, and insecurities which will influence the type of criticism they feed you. At the end of the day it’s your content that matters and as people’s perception varies so does their experience. Everyone peeps through ‘reality’ using a filter of what they’ve experienced and this holds an inimitable spin on everything you view and understand.
Trolling: This puts us to the conclusion that every opinion put-forth is valid, none of us is right and it’s cool for people to not accept your view. But be careful not to price-off an ephemeral criticism that lacks nuances as “just trolling”. Sometimes what resonates to be a thoughtless negative remark from a troll can turn out to imitate an undercurrent that is later taken up by more constructive commenters and can be extremely beneficial to your work. This kind of contract off the hook, doesn’t it?
3. Existence of just not getting it right.
Some of them are fraught, others are bitter-smitten and the rest are just bare angry. Some use their eyes to skim through what exactly is the content, the rest just fly off their buttons and straight venture abuse for the simplest of reasons that they feel is “What the Nation wants to know!” Media here is the often-used platform to do so as it is easy online and is also an instant medium just without revealing yourself. There are mere moments where people appease their distress and scrape that itch by voicing in your direction. This has to be handled with humour as not all the people who voice out their opinions need to make sense, right?
4. Search for a fresh idea.
Always be curious because ideas are often induced by the people and the environment around you. What’s that new idea being presented and where are those points of differences marked? Be aware that none of us are right, there’s constantly the other way to perceive things. Usually, Criticism arises due to some of these reasons, a difference in opinion, lack of perceivable value, the sense of foiling connected to an underlying issue the reader is battling with.
Aspects of a broader audience: A difference of opinion may lead you to review your details and retaliate to the criticism with detailed analysis. It might even urge you to post on different approaches to the topic in question leading to a broader audience to your work overtime. A sense of foiling among readers can provide an insight into deep audience requests, and the steps to meet them. Look at the gain of what you can learn and benefit from. Like a rainbow on a rainy day, there must something always incredible at the door-step!
5. Let it be…
The moment you feel your spines rising, swallow and say let it go. Just go easy and be certain of when you feel the slice of criticism being internalized and try interrupting it. It’s not a cake-walk but tries handling them with grace so, they reap appreciation and not condemn. Once your work is in the hands of people, seldom it can be transformed and sometimes the finest thing to do is just let it go. Begin with your next fresh idea, which will also go under the more rad!
6. Be Grateful.
It’s important to be grateful for any type of constructive criticism received. Display it to the other person that you are willing to learn from the experiences encountered, you are prepared to take accountability for your actions and also open to further suggestions without any judgments. In this way, you will begin to create a stage for communication and for discussing the available possibilities. This also makes the other person more open to your ideas, perspectives, and suggestions. Resulting in a conversation built on problem-solving rather than debating on who is right or wrong!
7. Responding to Criticism
Before responding to opinions and perspectives about the situation, it’s vital to stay calm and open to the chances that you might be wrong. While discussing with the other individual put the critical thinking hat on. Think about the criticism and the person giving the criticism thoughtfully. By segregating the facts from the fiction, you will be in a better spot to make the best of decisions.
There is absolutely no point in criticizing if you can’t provide the other individual with a solution. With a solution at hand, you will help them to make better choices at work. During constructive criticism’s never make assumptions, never criticize in public and never take criticism to a personal level.
Your criticism must try to have a positive impact and should not lead to the worsening of the situation. When it comes to criticism, there should be an understanding. As we are all emotionally fragile creatures we are prone to make irrational decisions when emotions get on the track! One way to avert this unpleasant scenario is to provide them with praise before and after your criticism. This is referred to as the sandwich technique. Sugar-coating things doesn’t work while criticizing a piece of work. Try to be honest and real with the other person.
Learn from your mistakes…
Be kind, polite and specific while presenting your point of view. Stay open, equally willing and prepared to acquire knowledge from the experience. Whether the criticism is valid/invalid, it should inspire you to work harder, to persist longer. He/she must use criticism as a tool to boost performances and degrees of motivation to move forward. It is in the person’s hand that it works for their betterment.